I hear self care getting a fair bit of discussion these days.

It’s selfish.

It’s frivolous.

It’s a waste of time.

It’s a waste of money.

I get it.

It can and does look selfish in some instances.

However, who are we to judge what another does to take some time to themselves?

Self care.

Gasp.

Yes, I said it.

Self care is not wrong.

Gasp. Gasp.

Yes I said that too.

Have you walked a mile in the others shoes to know that the time they take to refresh themselves, is selfish?

What is selfish?

How could it be selfish?

And why do you perceive it to be selfish?

Is it selfish or are you jealous?

Gasp.

Yes. I said that too.

Remember basic needs, like food, hygiene, clothing, and shelter are important not selfish! You need those. Your brain and body need those.

Yes! There are actual things you need! Actual things your body needs to survive.

Don’t neglect it or you will regret it.

I honestly knew nothing about self care.

Nothing.

In fact.

Most of what I learned in taking care of myself was only learned in the past number of years.

I didn’t even know how to identify my own needs.

Yes. You read that correctly.

So if the term self care bothers you, how about we call it healing care instead?

If someone is sick.

We would expect them to take time to heal.

Right?

How about if someone is healing emotionally?

Could we give them time, grace and space to heal?

If the answer is no, then, why not?

Healing takes time. Both physically, spiritually and emotionally.

Basic needs of life are NOT selfish.

Let’s be wise in identifying what we label as selfish.

Caring for yourself can be/is healing.

Always Prioritize your basic needs!

If you neglect you will regret!

Until next time

~Vinny